1 Second A Day // November 2017

A small peek into our daily lifestyle throughout the holiday month of November here in central South Dakota.

Special Mentions:

November 4th: We decorated for Christmas early because it was between packing it away in a storage unit or keeping boxed up in our small apartment.
November 9th: Hans’ preschool class got to stand up and say the Pledge of Allegiance for the Veterans Day Program.
November 14th: 2nd Annual MHS Marching Band Concert
November 18th: Celebrating Hans’ friend Rhys’ 5th birthday at the Childrens Museum in Brookings.
November 24th: Parade of Lights in Huron, SD

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A Sentence A Day for November // 2017

Wednesday, November 1st: Collin is home sick today, miserable in bed.

Thursday, November 2nd:  After Gwen and I dropped Hans off at school we ran errands and visited dad at school.

Friday, November 3rd: Today I had the honor of snuggling with a beautiful baby doll named Emilia Hopkins while the Hopkins had a nice warm supper as a family (plus Collin).

Saturday, November 4th: Happy heavenly birthday to Janna Leah Holmstrom.

Sunday, November 5th: Remember, Remember the fifth of November, the gunpowder treason and plot..

Monday, November 6th: Collin and I started our journey in watching every single movie that we own, beginning with Big Fish.

Tuesday, November 7th: Today the kids dug through our bin of legos unearthing as many mini figures as they could find.

Wednesday, November 8th: I was overwhelmed today by the thought of going outside but fought through it and managed to get the kids to the park, the library and out to eat supper with one of their best friends.

Thursday, November 9th: Hans participated in the Veterans Day program this morning with his preschool class stating the pledge of allegiance for an entire crowd of people.

Friday, November 10th: Ended the day with my good friends The Harrells, playing Turkey Bingo at the local Legion, we didn’t win though! ):

Saturday, November 11th: The kids and I traveled to Huron, SD today to spend time with Grandma and Grandpa Lieffort and play another round of Turkey Bingo where once we again we walked out empty handed. ):

Sunday, November 12th: Weighed in today for my weekly challenge and discovered that I had gained 4lbs, the second gain i’ve had all year.

Monday, November 13th: Took some time as a family today and did some laundry too!

Tuesday, November 14th: Tonight was Collin’s Indoor Marching Show, the junior¬† and senior high bands performed exceptionally well and Collin was a riot on the microphone as usual.

Wednesday, November 15th: Gwen and I were exausted today, we dropped Hans off at school than we went home and crawled back into bed for a few hours!

Thursday, November 16th: Babysat the Iverson’s children today, Milo is 10 months old and Jonah is 4 years old.

Friday, November 17th: The kids and I are driving to Brookings today to visit family and take a trip to Sioux Falls.

Saturday, November 18th: Today we celebrated Rhys’ birthday by visiting the Childrens Museum in Brookings with some of our closest friends, the Naths and the Ilaugs.

Sunday, November 19th: Drove home to Miller today to spend some time with Collin, who we haven’t seen since Wednesday!

Monday, November 20th: Laundry day, finally washed the kids stuffed animals!

Tuesday, November 21st: Visited with a doctor today about increasing my antidepressant today, he increased it 20mg and told me I should take benadryl to help myself sleep.

Wednesday, November 22nd: Taking another trip to Brookings to celebrate Thanksgiving with my parents tomorrow.

Thursday, November 23rd: Celebrated Thanksgiving day by enjoying turkey and other delicious food with family followed by black Friday shopping at walmart and JcPenney!

Friday, November 24th: Made our way home today with a detour in Huron, SD to pick up my brand new cell phone and watch the parade of lights, so magical!

Saturday, November 25th: Took yet another trip to Huron, SD to pick up Collin’s brand new cell phone and visit with Grandpa Blake and Shauna.

Sunday, November 26th: Today was filled to the brim with church activities and fantastic craft fair to support local businesses.

Monday, November 27th: Laundry day turned into a park day because it was 70 degrees outside, so wonderful!

Tuesday, November 28th: Hans stayed home sick from school and Gwen was very sick later in the day, pulling at her ears telling me they hurt.

Wednesday, November 29th: Took Gwen to the clinic to see if she has an ear infection, she doesn’t.

Thursday, November 30th: Hans had a regular day of school today while Gwen and I stayed home to do laundry.



Parallel Lives

This month of November my husband and I have been living parallel lives.

In our experience, the term “parallel lives” stems from a counseling session Collin and I had a couple of years ago. The therapist really put our living situation into perspective, he explained to us how easy it is to get caught up in schedules, raising children and other life stuff. It felt as though we were taking everything in shifts, the kids, housework, buying groceries… We rarely took any time for ourselves as a couple and it was becoming evident in our relationship. His advice was to revisit our earlier days as a new couple. The days when there weren’t children or shared bills to worry about. When the passion was new and time was bountiful. This allowed us to reconnect on a more personal level. Reminiscing about why we fell in love helped us to see how our love had grown and changed over the years.

The month of November has been rough, Collin has been gone several days at a time two weeks in a row for school related activities. The kids and I have been here, there and everywhere. Last weekend Collin and I crossed paths with each other in Brookings for a few minutes to exchange a hug. He proceeded to go all the way home to Miller that night while the kids and I stayed at my parents for the next two nights. This week is Thanksgiving and it is a given that Collin will be at home with annual commitments. Hans, Gwen and I will be heading back to Grandma and Grandpa’s home in Brookings for a Thanksgiving feast and black Friday shopping. This entire month has been a “parallel living” type of month. I miss my husband when we are apart but I can at least understand that soon enough we will intersect and get some quality time together for the holidays!


Happy Heavenly Birthday

When I think of her I remember her smile. I remember beautiful curly red hair, a freckled complexion and her bubbly personality. To you that may sound so cliche to say about someone who has passed away but that is honestly the person she was. Vibrant and loving, she adored animals of all kinds and got along with people of all types. She loved to get lost in a novel and wrote heartbreaking poetry. Her parents loved her more than anything and she had them wrapped around her finger. Her life had tough stuff in it but you wouldn’t know it if you didn’t ask her. She was goofy and curious about everything! She loved to explore, was lucky enough to have traveled out of the country a couple of times in her short life. She loved to drive too, her purple jeep was decked out in feather boas pinned to the ceiling and all kinds of pretty things hanging from the rear view mirror. It makes no difference now that she was reckless and had no fear of speed. She was fun to be with and always on an adventure!
I don’t remember how it happened, but she was my best friend through all of middle school and high school. We bonded over so many things.. animals, books and boys. We spent a lot of time in my home, she loved my parents and our pets as if they were her own. She was a hard worker and put in a lot of hours at Taco Johns. She was so proud of that job and of the friends she had made there.

Things weren’t always great between us, we fought every so often. I was a brat in high school and I let a boy come between us. She was selfless and always put me first but I let her down too many times. I remember how she whispered to me during a senior photo opportunity “lets just pretend we are still friends”. I Can still feel the awkwardness in that photo.

I remember the summer before she died that we had started texting each other. I had worked with a mutual friend and he prompted us to reconnect. She was about to turn 21 and she was so excited! We never got together or really even crossed paths much after high school. She went to college and had all new friends, Facebook had a way of making her appear very happy.

She is always in my heart and on my mind. Life is not fair, she did not deserve to die so young, freshly 21. I always get a hurricane of emotions when her birthday comes around. After she passed away I was reunited with my old group of friends from high school. We piled into my tiny apartment and reminisced, cried and comforted each other. As a group of people we have been inseparable ever since, losing her connected us in a way that I cannot explain. I cannot imagine life without those people who came forward at the darkest hour. For that, I am thankful for having her in my life. She connects us forever no matter where life takes us. She lives on in my memory and will never ever be forgotten.

Forever & Always.